Suddenly the child is gone and in its place is a teenager with a mind of their own, a new vocabulary and a changeable disposition. Welcome to adolescence - that turbulent phase of life in which closeness and distance are negotiated anew every day. This specialist lecture is about more than just "puberty problems": We explore what really happens inside teenagers, why withdrawal is the most common mistake adults make and how to maintain attachment even when everything is screaming to let go. With a good dose of humor and sound psychological knowledge, you'll learn why rebellion is sometimes healthy, how to maintain influence without exerting control, and how to stay connected without holding on. This talk is aimed at parents and anyone who accompanies teenagers - because growing up is not a struggle, but a dance in which we all learn.