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Hosting an Au-pair : Requirements & process

Hosting an Au-pair at home means not only relief in everyday family life, but also cultural exchange at eye level.  

Michelle Mihm, Au-Pair Product Manager & Specialist Consultant for Care in Private Households at pme Familienservice, explains what requirements must be met, what the process looks like and what prospective host families should look out for when choosing an au pair. at pme Familienservice.

What does it mean to host an Au-pair in Germany? 

Hosting an Au-pair means welcoming a new family member - usually a young person who comes from a different culture and first has to get used to life in Germany.  

During the stay, the Au-pair takes onlight care and household tasks, while in return receiving accommodation, food and pocket money. For the host family, this means above all investing time, patience and openness in order to make the Au-pair 's start in a new country easier. At the same time, an Au-pair enriches everyday family life through cultural exchange and new perspectives 

"An Au-pair should be seen as a younger sister or brother who is integrated into everyday family life and with whom you grow together," says Michelle Mihm, Product Manager Au-Pair & Specialist Consultant for Care in Private Households.

Can anyone host an Au-pair ? 

In principle, anyone who meets the necessary requirements can take on an Au-pair . These include a suitable living situation, the care of a child and certain legal conditions. Anyone who meets these criteria can benefit from the many advantages that an Au-pair brings to the family.

What are the requirements for hosting an Au-pair in Germany? 

For a family to be able to host an Au-pair in Germany, a number of requirements must be met: 

  • There must be at least one child under the age of 18 in the family. 
  • The Au-pair must have their own furnished, lockable and heated room of at least 8 square meters. 
  • The colloquial language in the family should be German. 
  • At least one parent must have German citizenship. 
  • The family covers the costs of accommodation, food, pocket money and insurance as well as a subsidy for the language course. 
  • The host parents enable participation in the language course and other courses and leisure activities offered by the pme Familienservice. 
  • The Au-pair is entitled to 4 weeks paid vacation (or 2 days per month pro rata) for a 12-month stay.

How much does it cost to host an Au-pair in Germany?

If a family takes in an Au-pair in Germany, the cost of living increases accordingly. This is because there is another adult living in the household.   

The costs that families should consider when taking in an Au-pair are made up of various items: 

  • Pocket money: at least 280 euros per month 
  • Accident, health and liability insurance: around 50 euros per month 
  • German course: approx. 70 euros per month 
  • Costs for board and lodging, including during the au pair's free time or illness: around 250 to 300 euros per month 

How long can an Au-pair stay in Germany? 

An Au-pair can stay in Germany for a minimum of 4 months and a maximum of 12 months . The length of stay is agreed individually and can be adjusted according to the needs and possibilities of the family and the au pair. 

How do I find an Au-pair? 

At pme Familienservice , we place au pairs with selected families throughout Germany and support both au pairs and host families throughout their stay. We attach great importance to careful selection and continuous support from our experienced local staff. 

In addition to pme Familienservice as an Au-pair in Germany, there are also other platforms that place au pairs. 

"Many families find their Au-pair independently and then come to us for further support. We offer consultations in advance and explain what to look out for when Au-pair on your own. It is important to know that au pairs must be between 18 and 26 years old. While some platforms don't always check the age exactly, we make sure that all requirements are met." - Michelle Mihm

pme Familienservice is the leading Au-pair

pme Familienservice is one of the leading Au-pair in Germany and is an official member of the international Au-pair IAPA and the German Au-Pair. The pme Familienservice Familienservice are also certified by the Gütegemeinschaft Au-pair e.V. with the RAL quality mark. 

Challenges that families and au pairs may face

Hosting an au pair in Germany enriches everyday family life with new perspectives and cultural experiences. But it also brings challenges. 

Many au pairs who come to Germany often experience a culture shock, and language barriers can make the start a little bumpy. This phase requires a lot of patience, understanding and loving support. For the families, this means investing time in intensive training and good organization.  

This intensive initial period pays off, as the Au-pair gradually becomes a great relief and enriches everyday family life with new perspectives and experiences. 

The pme Familienservice is there to support families and au pairs throughout their stay, e.g. with tips against homesickness, assistance with language problems and help with health issues.

We look after au pairs during their entire stay! 

Our au pairs are well looked after during their stay. We offer WhatsApp groups, a Facebook group, regular meetings and a 24-hour emergency hotline just for au pairs. This means they are well connected and supported at all times. 

All information for au pairs in Germany. 

How long does it take to get an Au-pair in Germany? 

The time it takes for an au pair to arrive in Germany can vary greatly. The appointment for the visa at the embassy depends on the country of origin and can range from 8 weeks to 8 to 10 months. There are often au pairs who already have an appointment so that the decision can be made within 2 to 4 weeks. Overall, the process can take between 2 and 10 months, depending on the country of origin and the political situation.

Is the process also supported with your own au pairs? 

Yes, we also support families exclusively with the visa process. Here, too, we conduct preliminary consultations with the families who would like to look for an Au-pair on their own and then support them in the further process.

Which countries do the au pairs come from? 

Our au pairs currently come mainly from India, Madagascar, Indonesia, South America and Armenia. Countries such as Australia, America or New Zealand are hardly represented, as no visa is required for au pairs there.

Au-pair with pme Familienservice

pme Familienservice is your strong partner for safe and qualified Au-pair in Germany. With over 30 years of experience in Au-pair, pme Familienservice offers families and au pairs comprehensive information, qualified advice and reliable support throughout their stay. 

Placement is free of charge for au pairs.

zero Also for beginners: free online yoga course

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Free: With online yoga throughout the year

Germany's largest online yoga program with over 10,000 registered participants will continue in 2025. All year round, every Tuesday evening. Be part of it! 

Our certified yoga teachers Fjodor and Vera focus on common workplace-specific stresses and strains and put together a varied program throughout the year. Whether shoulders, neck, lower back, pelvic floor or feet: our body parts, which are often stressed in everyday life, get the attention they deserve in the yoga sessions. Relaxation sessions and breathing exercises help you to calm down. 

Join in live or practice flexibly with the recording at your own pace - as it best suits your everyday life.

Do you have any questions in advance? Take a look at our FAQs.

Free online yoga: our yoga teachers

Our yoga teachers Fjodor and Vera are certified trainers with extensive experience. They take it in turns to teach the pme Familienservice online yoga course. 

Kickstart exercise for the new year: seated cat-cow (Marjariasana)

The 'cat-cow pose' is a yoga exercise that is usually practiced on a yoga mat. Here is an adapted version that you can do comfortably on a chair. 

  1. Sitting posture: Sit upright on a chair with your feet parallel to the floor.
  2. Hand placement: Position your hands on your thighs or knees.
  3. Inhale - cow pose: lift the chest slightly - lower the abdomen forward - roll the shoulders back and down - look up to lengthen the neck.
  4. Exhale - cat pose: round your back upwards like a cat stretching - lower your head down to curve your spine - tighten your abdominal muscles.
  5. Repetition: Alternate between the cow and cat position in a breathing rhythm.

This adapted version on the chair allows for a gentle stretch of the spine and encourages flexibility even when you can't sit on the floor. Note, however, that it is important to listen to your body and perform the exercise in a range that is comfortable for you

Free online yoga: now available on YouTube

Our popular Tuesday evening yoga class is now available on YouTube. You can join in at any time. To make sure you're always up to date, simply subscribe to our YouTube channel and click on the notification bell. This way you will be notified as soon as a new video is published. 

Date: From now until 12/31/2025, Tuesdays from 8:00 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.
Venue: virtual
Contact: familienservice
Costs: free of charge

Click here for our YouTube channel

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Our occupational health management (OHM) services are characterized by their holistic approach and individuality. From strategy development to needs analysis and evaluation, we establish, supplement and optimize companies' occupational health management portfolios in order to keep their employees healthy, productive and motivated.

The personal support of employees according to a new holistic mind-body & soul approach is one of our key factors and goes hand in hand with our blended learning concept. We combine digital and live formats to promote exercise, nutrition, stress prevention and mindfulness and make our knowledge available regardless of time and place. One of the ways we achieve this is by using the Mindance app for mental health.

#pmebewegt: funny videos and exciting online courses to join in!

We have developed #pmebewegt to incorporate more movement into everyday life: We use short, funny videos to show how more movement can be integrated into everyday life.

Our online classes take place live and are suitable for everyone: From a short, active break at your desk to sofa yoga, for which you don't even have to leave the couch, to an evening back-fit class, there is something for everyone.