featuring couples therapist Anette Frankenberger and podcast host Oliver Schmidt
Body & Soul
06.06.2025 Isabel Hempel 638

Episode 37: Myths about sexuality in long-term relationships

In this episode, we talk to Anette Frankenberger, an experienced couples and family therapist from Munich, about the challenges and myths surrounding sexuality in long-term relationships. Anette debunks six common myths and shows how couples can improve their communication about sexuality. Because if you can talk openly about sexuality with your partner, you are well on the way to a fulfilling relationship. Anette Frankenberger gives valuable tips on how couples can communicate their needs and desires openly.

 In this podcast you will learn:

Whichcommon myths persist and how can we dispel them? 

  • Myth 1: Less sex is a bad sign - what's the truth?
  • Myth 2: The standard of twice a week - how do you free yourself from this pressure?
  • Myth 3: Spontaneous desire - is that really the norm?
  • Myth 4: Techniques and tricks - how do they affect sex life expectations?
  • Myth 5: Sex has to be wild and fast - how can slow sex strengthen the relationship?
  • Myth 6: Everything has already been said - why do couples find it difficult to communicate openly? 

Cheerful to stormy - the everyday podcast with Olli Schmidt

Welcome to "Heiter bis stürmisch" - the everyday podcast. Cheerful or saddened to death: life has its ups and downs. That's what we're all about: everyday crises such as arguments with your partner, parenting issues, work overload, insecurities and anxiety. We talk to experts and give you practical tips to help you deal better with crises and challenges. 

You can listen to our podcast on all known podcast platforms (Spotify, Apple Music, Audible etc.)! Questions, suggestions, criticism, wishes? Feel free to write to us at: podcast@familienservice.de

Couples and individual counseling by experienced therapists 

At pme Familienservice , we offer couples and families support in talking openly about their needs and clearing up misunderstandings.

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Body & Soul
15.01.2024 Christin Müller 14170

Write down positive thoughts: Never brood again

When winter just won't end, it can really put a damper on your mood. In such phases, we often forget the positive moments that keep us going.

We would rather brood over negative things that have failed, upset or hurt us. However, positive thoughts are not only better for our well-being, they also help us sleep much better. Our health expert Petra Dinkelacker has a really good tip on how to change your mindset in the long term by writing down your positive experiences.

Store good experiences and ensure a lasting sense of well-being

Writing things down can help us to better remember positive experiences. By writing things down, we can determine over time which approach helps us to develop things in a positive direction and which strategies we should develop in the future.

This is how it works:

  • Get yourself a nice book and a nice pen that you use for the sole purpose of jotting down your thoughts.
  • Take five minutes before going to bed. That's often all it takes.
  • Now write down your successes and positive experiences of the day and ask yourself the following questions:
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    • What worked well for me today?
    • How did I manage it or what did I do to ensure that it went well?

Think about three things and answer these two questions for each of them.

Plan to practise this method for at least three weeks and write down your experiences. If it doesn't work on one day, don't put yourself under pressure. Revisit your thoughts later or skip a day. But keep going and leaf back through your book from time to time to see what insights you can derive from it.

I wish you many positive thoughts!

Health impulses with our 5-minute exercises

Our 5-minute exercises give you ideas for more relaxation, balance, activity and feel-good moments in your everyday work and private life. They are not a substitute for professional help from counselors and psychologists.

Please seek professional advice, for example from life coaching (Link opens in a new window) ( Link opens in a new window) , if you are permanently depressed, suffer from persistent excessive stress and have deeper mental problems.