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pme Donates: Opportunities for Girls and Families in Uganda

"We don't want to make people dependent; rather, we want to help them become independent." (Nadine Oesterle) 

For many people in Germany, it’s hard to imagine that girls can’t go to school because of their periods. In Uganda, this is a reality for countless girls: They stay away from class, fall behind in their studies—and some eventually lose touch with their education entirely. Nadine Oesterle wants to change that. Through Yeshanah Mission, she educates girls about menstruation. But that’s only part of the work: Through sponsorships, the initiative enables children to attend school and supports families with educational programs and training that open pathways to self-sufficiency. The pme Familienservice has supported Yeshanah Mission with 6,250 euros.

What was your personal motivation for establishing the “Yeshanah Mission” family center in Uganda?

Nadine Oesterle: Yeshanah Mission is intended to become a family center where families are trained and equipped with skills that will support their independence, and to which a clinic will also be attached. 

For example, the family center will offer computer classes that enable local residents to keep pace with the rapidly advancing developments of our time.

The catalyst was our close contact with the families of the children in our sponsorship program, which gave us deeper insight into the concerns and hardships these families face. Through the family center, we want to look beyond education and empower families in the long term to provide for themselves independently. 


Nadine Oesterle (second from the left) and her team are working to help Ugandan families.

How exactly do you support the children? What specific projects have you already carried out, and which ones are still in the planning stages?

We support the children through sponsorships so that they can return to school or attend for the first time. Sponsors cover the school fees, but the families are responsible for school supplies such as uniforms and books, in order to involve them in taking responsibility for their children’s education. 

We now have 35 children in our sponsorship program, including one young man who is in college. We support the children and stay in touch with the local schools and the children’s relatives and families. 

With the support of Patenschaft+ we reach and empower girls and young women in schools and villages. Our educational program aims to educate young women about their bodies and empower them to make their own decisions.

We’ve just started offering training sessions for women. In these sessions, they learn how to sew their own washable hygiene kits using simple, locally available materials. This enables them to help others while also equipping them to start their own businesses by selling these hygiene kits. We’d like to expand this area further to promote self-reliance, broaden our reach, and achieve a long-term impact.

In addition, there will also be a section for startups in the future to provide families with financial start-up assistance. This includes training on topics such as how to start and run a business, how to write a business plan, and how to calculate income and expenses.

Can you tell us more about the “Patenschaft +” project?

It all started with sponsorship programs that enable children to attend school. But when we took a closer look, we found that only a fraction of the children go on to secondary school, and an even smaller proportion even finish elementary school. And this affects girls in particular.

One reason is that girls often fall through the cracks as soon as they start their periods, and another reason is the extremely high rate of teenage pregnancies. It’s a major taboo, and very few girls have received sex education or know how to manage their periods properly.


Health Education in Uganda: The girls receive washable hygiene kits.

They often end up missing school on the days they have their period, miss a lot of class, and eventually stop going to school because they’ve fallen so far behind. And that’s exactly where Patenschaft+ comes in.

We don’t just want to help children attend school; we also want to help ensure they stay in school. That’s why, through Patenschaft+, we visit schools, provide education about sexuality and menstruation, encourage the girls, and are there to listen to their questions.

In addition, every girl receives a washable hygiene kit so she can go to school even when she has her period.

Through outreach programs in villages and schools, you aim to reach people directly in their communities. What needs do you encounter most frequently in this work?

The average age in Uganda is about 15 years. This means there are an extremely large number of young people with limited prospects for the future and few opportunities in the job market. This is already having an impact on the situation in schools. The pressure on students is enormous. Even in kindergarten, children learn to read and write, take tests, and receive report cards. Great emphasis is placed on academic performance. 

What does sustainable aid mean to you in a country facing poverty, unemployment, and limited access to education and health care?

That is a very important question, and it is also the reason why we founded Yeshanah Mission. “Simply giving money” is not the solution to the problem; in fact, it makes it worse. We do not want to make people dependent; rather, we want to help them become self-reliant.

For children, it all starts with education. So many children don’t have the opportunity to go to school or learn to read and write. Education can help break the cycle of poverty.

Equipping parents with the skills they need so that they can eventually become capable of providing for their families again is the most sustainable form of assistance.

How does the MT:28 organization help you put your ideas into practice?

MT:28 is our guide in all areas. With their wealth of experience gained from working with missionaries around the world, they support us with advice and practical assistance. MT:28 also supports us by managing donations, ensuring that they reach their intended recipients.

One year later—What projects were you able to carry out with the donation from pme Familienservice ?

This year, thanks to the wonderful support from pme Familienservice , we were able to distribute 549 washable hygiene kits during our outreach efforts and also train 7 women to sew their own hygiene kits.

In addition, we have a major project planned for October in western Uganda, where we will visit two schools—each with 80 female students—and provide them with hygiene kits. We will also train 11 more women to sew hygiene kits.


Women are being taught how to sew their own hygiene products.

For more information about the "Patenschaft+" project, visit the organization's website: MT:28.

Social commitment of the pme Familienservice

The "pme donates" fundraising campaign has been running for five years, giving pme team members the opportunity to nominate charitable organizations in the fields of "international development aid," "social work," "climate and animal protection," and "culture" for a donation that they actively support. All team members then vote on the organizations they want to support. The organizations with the most votes receive a donation from pme Familienservice.

In 2025, five national and international organizations received a total of €50,000 in donations—a joint demonstration that social engagement is an integral part of pme's corporate culture.

zero Helicopter parents: the effects of overprotective parenting

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Parent & Child

What defines helicopter parents?

The anxious mother who takes her child everywhere by car and picks him up again, the controlling father who keeps a close eye on school performance and never shies away from a teacher's talk ...  

While many parents want to support their children in order to smooth their path, they often end up becoming "helicopter parents." However, this overprotective attitude, which usually stems from their own worries and fears, can have a significant impact on the development of their children's independence. 

An article by Ramona Krämer, parent counselor and systemic family therapist at pme Familienservice.

What are "helicopter parents"?  

"Helicopter parents" are parents who are constantly close to their children and circle around them like a helicopter so that they can intervene at any time if they think their child needs support or protection. 

The parenting style of helicopter parents is characterized by

  • Over-involvement
  • Restriction of the child's autonomy 
  • Overprotection 
  • Assigning blame to third parties, e.g. when educators are held responsible if their own child has conflicts in the childcare center .

What is the difference between helicopter parents and lawnmower parents? 

In contrast to helicopter parents, lawnmower parents try to clear any potential challenge or difficulty out of the way at an early stage - preferably in advance. They "mow down" all obstacles before the child encounters them. 

Both parenting styles are characterized by a strong overprotectiveness, but with a different approach: helicopter parents are more reactive, while lawnmower parents plan and act more in advance.

What is behind it when parents are overprotective?  

The overprotectiveness of helicopter parents often stems from their own fears.

There are usually reasons for the parents' overprotective behavior that lie in their past and are linked to experiences - before, during or after pregnancy: for example, a long fertility treatment, complications during pregnancy or birth, premature births, as well as postpartum depression or their own upbringing that they grew up with. 

At the same time, the world is becoming more and more complex, and through media coverage we learn of many disasters around us and in the world, giving us the feeling that the world is more dangerous and unsafe for our children. 

The desire for control often stems from the need to do something about one's own powerlessness and helplessness.
 

We overestimate the probability of events! 

In psychology, this is known as the availability heuristic: an abbreviated, cognitive conclusion in which the probability of events is assessed according to their topicality and vividness in memory. 

This means that tragic news becomes engrained, leading to a heightened sense of risk and thus to misjudgments and errors in judgment. This often results in increased protective measures 

What impact do helicopter parents have on their children?  

The overprotective parenting style leads to children becominganxious and developing phobias or fears themselves.

Before children can gather their own experiences, they rely on the experiences of their caregivers. This type of transfer of experience is very long-lasting, unlike other forms of learning that quickly fade if they are not repeated.

Phobias and fears, such as fear of spiders or the dentist or fear of loss, are transferred from the primary caregiver to their children. This happens on a non-verbal level, through facial expressions, gestures and smell. 

What helps? Name and disclose your own fear!
 

Do the reality check!

Exchange ideas with other parents or your partner: 

- Are there real dangers or is it a perceived insecurity? 

- What can children of this age be expected to do? 

- How do you handle this? 

- Do you have similar fears?

 

BUT the parental role model is not the only factor that determines whether a child develops anxiety. Genetic, biological and socio-cultural influences also play a role here. 

Example 1: An anxious mother limits her adventurous son's freedom of movement, which leads to frequent conflicts. Although the mother's anxiety is often noticeable, it is probably not transferred directly to the son. 

Example 2: A rather cautious child is severely restricted in its independence by its parents. It is less and less confident in mastering challenges on its own and does not learn to develop the ability to act. 

How do children of helicopter parents behave? 

The overprotectiveness of helicopter parents has a strong influence on their children's development . This can be seen in their motor skills, risk assessment and frustration tolerance.

The influence on children's motor development and risk assessment

In its "More safety through movement" series of publications, Unfallkasse Hessen states that children who are allowed to move freely have fewer accidents . Children need free movement and the space to experience things for themselves.

They need challenges, borderline experiences and experiences of failure in order to learn to assess risks correctly and develop self-confidence.

The influence on children's resilience and frustration tolerance 

Overprotected children who experience hardly any negative emotions, consequences and frustration while growing up develop less self-efficacy and suffer more frequently from anxiety disorders, according to studies by Stanford University (2021) and Florida Atlantic University (2023).  

This makes it all the more important that children learn to deal with frustration, injustice, conflicts and even accidents at an early age and in an age-appropriate manner. 

How can we make our children strong? 

Parents - and helicopter parents in particular - must learn to endure their own fears and worries.  

Instead of restricting your own child with well-intentioned overprotection, children need to be supported in their independence. In this way, they can develop crisis skills and learn to assert themselves independently.  

This is also confirmed by the Florida Atlantic University study (2023), which shows that children and young people who spend a lot of time playing freely and riskily and are used to solving problems without parental guidance are mentally happier .

It is therefore important that parents promote their child's self-efficacy and resilience and give them the freedom they need.

5 tips on how to find a healthy level of care

1. see care as support for the independent development of your child. The long-term goal of parents should be to make themselves dispensable. After all, we want our children to be able to manage their own lives when they move out. 

2 Only help your child if he or she asks for it.  

3. ask your child questions instead of giving direct answers and thus anticipating a solution. 

4. do not relieve your child of challenges, but support them in finding a solution themselves. 

5. only provide support until the point is reached where your child can take over on their own. 

"The role of parents is to support their child only until the child can take over on their own—not to do everything for the child or remove all challenges from their path." - Ramona Krämer, parent counselor at pme Familienservice

The pme parent counseling service

Our parent counselors support parents in all matters from pregnancy to the child's adulthood.  

Personal and confidential: We are there for you online, by phone and on site. You can find more information on the pme parent counseling page.