featuring couples therapist Anette Frankenberger and podcast host Oliver Schmidt
Body & Soul
06.06.2025 Isabel Hempel 747

Episode 37: Myths about sexuality in long-term relationships

In this episode, we talk to Anette Frankenberger, an experienced couples and family therapist from Munich, about the challenges and myths surrounding sexuality in long-term relationships. Anette debunks six common myths and shows how couples can improve their communication about sexuality. Because if you can talk openly about sexuality with your partner, you are well on the way to a fulfilling relationship. Anette Frankenberger gives valuable tips on how couples can communicate their needs and desires openly.

 In this podcast you will learn:

Whichcommon myths persist and how can we dispel them? 

  • Myth 1: Less sex is a bad sign - what's the truth?
  • Myth 2: The standard of twice a week - how do you free yourself from this pressure?
  • Myth 3: Spontaneous desire - is that really the norm?
  • Myth 4: Techniques and tricks - how do they affect sex life expectations?
  • Myth 5: Sex has to be wild and fast - how can slow sex strengthen the relationship?
  • Myth 6: Everything has already been said - why do couples find it difficult to communicate openly? 

Cheerful to stormy - the everyday podcast with Olli Schmidt

Welcome to "Heiter bis stürmisch" - the everyday podcast. Cheerful or saddened to death: life has its ups and downs. That's what we're all about: everyday crises such as arguments with your partner, parenting issues, work overload, insecurities and anxiety. We talk to experts and give you practical tips to help you deal better with crises and challenges. 

You can listen to our podcast on all known podcast platforms (Spotify, Apple Music, Audible etc.)! Questions, suggestions, criticism, wishes? Feel free to write to us at: podcast@familienservice.de

Couples and individual counseling by experienced therapists 

At pme Familienservice , we offer couples and families support in talking openly about their needs and clearing up misunderstandings.

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Psyche
14.03.2025 Isabel Hempel 8343

Business psychologist Vera Starker on confidence

Vera Starker is certain that confidence can help us shape our lives and society in a positive way, especially in uncertain times. In this interview, the Spiegel bestselling author talks about how confidence can act as a formative force in our society. She shares personal experiences and gives impulses on how we can remain optimistic in times of crisis and actively bring about positive change.

For me, "being courageous" means acting despite fears

"Courage to be confident" is a very powerful title. What inspired you personally to write a book that deals intensively with this topic?

Vera Starker: I am a confident person by nature. But last year, I realized that all the negative news was increasingly sapping my energy. This led me to take a closer look at the topic of confidence on a scientific level. 

For me, "being courageous" means acting despite fears. And confidence is the key to finding this courage. At a time when we are confronted with many uncertainties, we need the confidence to embrace positive change and take action.

In your book, you emphasize the transformative power of confidence. How do you see the role of confidence as a shaping force in our society?

Confidence has the potential to keep us capable of acting, even in the midst of crises. It enables us not to remain powerless, but to actively seek solutions to solve complex problems. 

Especially in the future, in a world full of challenges, the power of confidence will be crucial in order to continuously adapt and enable positive change. Without confidence, all we can do is hesitate - with confidence, we can create.

In your opinion, what is the first step that each of us can take to actively bring about positive change?

It is important to recognize where we can actually make an impact. Confidence arises above all when we have the feeling that we can make a difference. We should focus on the areas where we can make a direct difference instead of being overwhelmed by things that are beyond our reach. 

The next step is to set realistic goals that match our skills. If we set ourselves goals that are too high and cannot be achieved, we lose our sense of effectiveness. The power of confidence lies in remaining capable of action and bringing about positive change in the areas over which we have influence.

Hate is destructive - confidence is the exact opposite

In one chapter of your book, you deal intensively with the topic of hate. How can we as a society learn to overcome hate and what role does confidence play in bringing about positive change?

Vera Starker: Hate is destructive - confidence is the exact opposite. We have to decide whether we react to hate or rely on confidence. Confidence means clearly recognizing challenges and then looking for opportunities to act - even if they seem small at first. 

It is crucial to surround yourself with people who also have a constructive attitude and strive for positive change. Cohesion creates a force that enables us to move in a positive direction as a society.

Was there a personal moment in your life when "courage to be confident" played a decisive role for you? If so, could you tell us more about it?

Vera Starker: Yes, in my youth I had some very challenging human experiences that presented me with a difficult decision: Should these events define my life or could I overcome them? 

I decided to overcome them, which made me realize that there is always a way - no matter how small it may seem. However, sometimes it takes great courage not to give up and to keep going. 

This moment taught me that confidence doesn't mean closing your eyes to problems, but finding the courage to carry on despite everything.

Experience Vera Starker live on April 3, 2025!

Find out how a confident attitude can improve your quality of life and bring about positive change. SPIEGEL bestselling author and management consultant Vera Starker makes it clear: confidence is not optimism, nor rose-colored glasses, but creative power and goal orientation.

Vera Starker: "The courage to be confident"

Lectures, workshops, podcasts that promote our resilience

The "Lost in Space?" initiative invites us with openness and curiosity to explore new paths that give us support and direction in these intense times. Because finding solutions requires strength - and is only possible together. 

With inspiring talks, interactive workshops, podcasts and blog articles, we create space to find inner clarity and strength and remain resilient. Join us on an exciting journey to new perspectives and opportunities!

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