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Finance & Law

How much will my first apartment cost?

Finally moving into your first apartment! But this newfound freedom comes with financial challenges. As an apprentice or student, your bank account usually isn’t exactly overflowing. To make sure your dream of having a place of your own doesn’t turn into a financial nightmare, we’ve put together a list of all the important costs and money-saving tips for you.​​​​​​​

​​​​​​​Text: Stephanie Bartsch, Karin Lohse, Income and Budget Counseling

What do I need to keep in mind before moving out of or into my first apartment?

Before you start looking for your first apartment, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Build up a financial cushion: If possible, stay at home for another half year and set aside money specifically for this purpose. That way, you’ll start out with a cushion to cover your security deposit and initial furniture purchases.
  • Household Check: Learn from your parents how to manage expenses and run a household. That’s the best way to prepare for real life.​​​​​​​

What should I look for in a lease agreement?

The first rule of thumb is: Don't sign anything you don't understand! Lease agreements often contain complex clauses. You can also ask the landlord if you can take the lease home with you for a day.

Check whether the rental agreement contains the following important information:

  • Are all ancillary costs listed?
  • Is the amount of the deposit noted?
  • Have all the tenants' names been entered?
  • Is there a written handover protocol?
  • How long is the notice period?

Base Rent vs. All-Inclusive Rent

The base rent is just the starting point. Add a flat rate of about 2 euros per square meter for utilities (electricity, heat, water, trash collection) on top of that.

Security deposit

The landlord may require a security deposit of up to three months' rent (excluding utilities) . If everything goes smoothly when you move out, you'll get your money back.

Handover Report

Make a written note of every crack in the sink and every scratch on the hardwood floor so you won't be held liable for them when you move out.

Notice Period

This is usually three months— be sure to factor that into your future plans. Also important: The three-month notice period applies to your landlord as well.

 

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First Apartment: Where Can I Find Financial Assistance?

Vocational Training Grant (BAB)

Apprentices can apply for vocational training assistance (BAB). You can find an overview here at Sparkasse: Financial Support for Apprentices

BAföG

If you're a college student, you can apply for BAföG. Information about BAföG: Apply for BAföG online

Grant to Help Students Get Started

If you are starting your first degree program and are under 25 years of age, you can receivea one-time “Studienstarthilfe” grant of 1,000 eurosfrom the BAföG office.

  • Requirement: In the month before you began your studies, you received certain social benefits (e.g., Bürgergeld, housing allowance, or child supplement).
  • Application: Digital applications only via the BAföG Digital portal.

Am I eligible for housing assistance?

You must apply for housing benefit at the housing benefit office of the municipality in which your home is located.

As an apprentice , however, you’ll usually only receive housing assistance in exceptional cases (e.g., if you’re pursuing a second apprenticeship or a profession not recognized by the state, such as a yoga instructor or typesetter).

In addition, you must be of legal age and provide proof that you are responsible for covering the costs of the apartment on your own.

You can find everything you need to know about housing assistance in this article: How do I apply for housing assistance?

Where can I apply for rent assistance as an apprentice?

The good news is: Under certain conditions, as an apprentice, you can apply to the local government office for additional rent subsidies, especially if you're under 25 and can no longer live with your parents (e.g., because of the distance to your training site).

Rent Assistance Checklist:

  • You are receiving BAB or BAB has been rejected because your income is too high.
  • The BAB rent allowance does not cover your heating and rent costs.
  • You no longer live at home.
  • Before you moved out of your parents' home, you applied for a rent subsidy from the office responsible for ALG II and received permission to move out.
  • Your apartment is reasonable in terms of size and price. Otherwise, you will only receive the rent subsidy that corresponds to a reasonable apartment.

When will I receive a housing allowance?

If you are under 25 years old and no longer live with your parents, you may be eligible for a housing allowance only if it would be unreasonable for you to move back in with them.

This applies, for example, if your place of training is far away or if there are serious social reasons justifying your move.
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The "Hidden" Fixed Costs

In addition to rent, there are costs that many people underestimate:

  • Electricity & Internet: Look specifically for bundled plans, but pay attention to the contract terms (often 24 months).
  • Broadcasting License Fee (GEZ): It amounts to 18.36 euros per household. Important: If you receive BAföG or BAB, you can apply for an exemption! In a shared apartment, only one person has to pay—if everyone is exempt, no one pays.
  • Insurance: Personal liability insurance is a must. Check to see if you're still covered under your parents' family insurance policy.
  • Transportation: Don't forget the cost of the monthly pass or your car.

Application for exemption from the broadcasting fee

Other costs you should expect

In addition to rental costs, there are other costs that you should take into account in your financial planning.

For example for:

  • Furniture, home furnishings, and items such as pans, towels, glasses, and hair dryers
  • Internet and cell phone costs
  • Costs for groceries and other items such as contact lenses, clothing, and haircuts

To get a good overview of what’s known as the cost of living—the additional monthly expenses on top of rent and other costs—it’s a good idea to keep some kind of household budget .

Furnishing Your First Apartment in a Sustainable and Affordable Way

Your first apartment doesn't have to be a catalog home.

  • Secondhand: You can find affordable furniture and kitchenware (pans, glasses, etc.) on kleinanzeigen.de, at flea markets, or in thrift stores. With a little creativity, you can even give bulky trash items a sustainable new lease on life.
  • Set priorities: Think carefully about what you need right away and what can wait.

Keep an eye on costs with a budget book

To avoid ending up in the red at the end of the month, a household budget book is essential—whether it’s the traditional paper version or an app (e.g., “Mein Haushaltsbuch” or “Moneon Haushaltsbuch”).

If you track your spending on groceries, leisure activities, and subscriptions, you'll automatically save money.

Bonus Tip for Filing Your Tax Return: Even if you're an apprentice or a student, it's worth filing a tax return. Travel expenses and work equipment (laptop, tablet) can often be claimed as tax deductions.

What do I need to keep in mind after moving?

As soon as you move, you must update your registration with the Residents' Registration Office () . You generally have two weeks to do so. If you forget, you risk a fine of up to 1,000 euros.

​​​​​​​Income and Budget Counseling

As a comprehensive EAP provider, pme Familienservice offers Familienservice in all situations—from psychosocial counseling and leadership development to income and budget counseling.

If you want to empower your employees in the long term, learn more here about the services offered by pme Familienservice how we can provide personalized support.
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EAP advice

 

 

zero 5 tips on how to make a vacation together a success

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5 tips on how to make a vacation together a success

The time has finally come for that vacation with friends, family, or your partner—and you want it to be perfect. But arguments on vacation are not uncommon. Most of the time, the causes aren’t expensive meals, the wrong accommodation, or bad weather. Rather, it’s differing expectations and a lack of communication that can lead to stress.  

Tips from therapist Dagmar Cassiers on how to enjoy a stress-free family vacation and what to keep in mind when planning your trip.

How can you have a vacation together without arguing? 

In this article, couples therapist Dagmar Cassiers shares five practical tips for ensuring that a vacation with family, friends, or a partner goes smoothly and stress-free. The key lies in realistic expectations, clear communication, and flexibility. 

Vacation is the time many people look forward to all year long. Expectations are sky-high—much like at Christmas. Everything is supposed to be perfect, everyone is supposed to be happy, and the problems of everyday life are supposed to suddenly disappear—especially when it’s THAT long-awaited annual vacation. Yet the “most wonderful time of the year” has already put more than a few relationships and friendships to the test—or even brought them to an end.

 1. Assess your expectations: What do I expect from this vacation?

The expectation of a perfect vacation together can quickly lead to disappointment. Because let’s be honest: the idea that everything will run like clockwork on vacation and that everyone will be happy and in a good mood all the time is a fantasy we’re all too happy to delude ourselves with.

Just like in everyday life, plans can quickly go awry while on vacation. That’s perfectly normal and doesn’t necessarily ruin the trip. It really depends on how we handle it.It all starts with our expectations.   

Tip: Lower your expectations

Don’t expect too much from your vacation together—just go with the flow and embrace the adventure, whatever it may bring. The anticipation is the best part! 

 2. Discuss your ideas: What do you want your vacation to be like? 

The stress can start as early as the vacation planning stage, when different ideas and needs clash:

  • Beach or mountains?
  • Adventure or relaxation?
  • Plane or train?
  • Hotel or campground?
  • ...

That is why it is especially important to discuss in advance how everyone envisions spending their time together. When parents go on vacation with their children, it is essential to take the children’s needs into account as well.

Ask yourself the following questions and discuss them: 

  • What do I expect from my vacation?
  • What do I really want to do?
  • What are my must-haves and no-gos?
  • What do we do together? What can or would everyone like to do on their own?
  • When is a vacation a successful vacation for me? 

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Tip: Sit down together at the table 

Everyone sits down together at the table and talks openly about their wishes and expectations for the vacation. That way, everyone knows what’s important to the others and what they expect. This makes planning easier.

3. plan communication rituals

Your first vacation together as a couple? With kids or a group of friends? Even on vacation, it’s important to make a conscious effort to spend time together and talk to each other:

  • How am I doing?
  • What did I like the most?
  • What am I looking forward to?
  • What's on my mind?

Scheduling a regular time—a “fixed meeting”—for the conversation can be helpful.

Tip: Time for two without children

Many resorts and venues offerchildcare services. This is a great way for parents to spend a few hours together without interruptions or to take some time for themselves, all while knowing their children are in good hands. 


 

Small gestures of love can strengthen relationships and friendships. Find out how in the article "Micro-mance: Small Gestures of Love Strengthen Relationships"

4. face conflicts on vacation with composure

Conflicts can arise even while on vacation. It’s important to stay calm and deal with problems constructively.Instead ofhurling accusations at each other, you should tryto communicateyour feelings and needs openly

One helpful method is "Nonviolent Communication" (NVC) as developed by Rosenberg:

  • Describe the situation, don't judge: What happened?
  • Naming feelings: How do I feel?
  • Expressing needs: What do I need? What is on my mind?
  • Make a request: What do I want to happen?

    Tip: Accommodation with a retreat

    Even on vacation, you need some peace and quiet now and then. That’s why it’s worth making sure your accommodation offers enough space—including private space— so you can close the door and have some time to yourself. Some hotels, for example, offer family rooms with connecting doors. Vacation rentals or houses provide more opportunities to get some privacy.

    5. Viewing a vacation together as a test of your relationship

    A vacation together can also serve as a test for the relationship. By taking a vacation together right at the start of the relationship, couples can learn a lot andget some initial answers to important questions about their relationship:

    • How well do we get along?
    • What do we have in common?
    • What sets us apart?  
    • How do we deal with differences?  

    Here, too, it’s importantto clarify expectations right from the start, discuss your (vacation)needstogether, and be flexible.  

    Tip: A short vacation to get to know each other

    Short vacations or weekend trips together are a good way to get to know each other better and at the same time slowly get used to spending more time together.

    Book tip
    • The "Sex Passport - Sexual Fit with 423 Questions on the Sexual Profile" + supplementary workbook by Dagmar Cassiers, coach and couples therapist at pme Familienservice. The 423 questions make it possible to concretize your own sexual profile and compare it with the profile of your (potential) partner and get to know each other better.
    • "The five languages of love How communication works in a partnership" by Gary Chapman: There are five basic ways to communicate your love to someone - and each of us has a mother tongue.

    FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions About Vacationing Together 

    1. How can I avoid arguments while on vacation together? 

    Open communication before and during the vacation is crucial. Discuss expectations and preferences, plan shared and individual activities, and make time for regular conversations. 

    2. Why do conflicts often arise on vacation? 

    Most of the time, differing expectations, unclear agreements, and unrealistic expectations are what trigger disputes. Joint planning and realistic goals help prevent conflicts. 

    3. What should you do when your wishes and interests differ? 

    Talk openly about what matters to each of you. Find compromises and plan activities that allow everyone to thrive—both shared experiences and time to themselves. 

    4. What is the best way to handle conflicts while on vacation? 

    Stay calm, avoid making accusations, be open to the other person’s needs, and use nonviolent communication. Having a quiet space in the home where you can retreat can help you gain some emotional distance. 

    5. Can a vacation improve a relationship? 

    A vacation together offers the chance to get to know each other better, strengthen the bonds you share, and enjoy new experiences together. Open communication and flexibility are key.